Thursday, January 9, 2014

When You've Never Been Kissed

They say 'write what you know'...and there is truth in that. However, as writers it is our place to write what we don't know. I'm sure not many fantasy writers have ever experience the sight of a head being sliced off or a king falling from his horse. We create scenes in our heads that we've never seen in reality.

Scenes, though, are different from emotions.

For someone like me who's never been in a relationship with a guy, it can be difficult to write romance. 

How can a girl who's never been kissed, never held hands with a guy, never thought of one in 'that way', write about love and romance? 

I say:
Love is love, no matter the intentions behind it.

I see love in the way my parents share a kiss after praying over our dinner. I see love when my little sister plays sweetly with her brother. I see love in the church, in the fellowship we have there.

Not only do I see love, but I know it.

I know it when I have long, emotional conversations with my mom that last late into the night. I know it when my brother desires snuggle-time. I know it when my sister gives me goodnight kisses and hugs.

Most of all, I know love because of my relationship with Christ. His love for me is forever and always, and no one will ever love me as much as he did when he took the wrath of God that I deserved upon his shoulders. No one, not ever. 

I do know love, thought not in the lustful way of the world. I know love in its purest form; in the love of my Saviour. 

As writers we have the right to write. Now, how to write well? - that is the question. If you're facing difficulty in writing emotions, my best advice is to dive deep into your own. Remember your envy, anger, shyness, love. Experience it, express it.

Write it.

*all photos used were found on Pinterest


  1. Great post! The love of Christ is the best love to experience- if you can write a love story that shows HIS kind of love, you just might have the best kind of romance.

    - Grace

  2. I've always been told this. It took me awhile to figure out just what it meant. As you said, a lot of us have never fought in battles, we've never gone on quests or grand adventures. But we know feelings. We know what it is like to be scared, to get that sinking feeling in our stomachs when something goes wrong. We know what it s like to love, to loose friends, to cry. And that is what I think they mean by writing what you know.


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